He was there again.
On my porch, waiting for me when I got home from work. “Can I come
in for a bit, Carter?” he asked with that smug grin he always has
when he comes over. It had been a long day in the hot sun. I wanted
to say no. I wanted him to just go away, but I’ve committed to this
exercise, and I mean to honor it. I sighed...
“Sure, why not?”
I said as I opened the door and let him in. “You’ll have to
excuse me. I’m still sweaty and gross.” I gave him a glass of
water and invited him to sit on the couch while I went into the
bathroom, took off my shirt and began to clean up with a washcloth.
“Havin’ a bit
of a whore’s bath, are you Carter?”
I rolled my eyes.
It was too hot for this. “What can I do for you, Gunner?”
“Carter, you know
I’m concerned about you. You’ve been on my mind, and I’ve been
thinking about your condition. You’re on, what is it, your third
marriage?”
I tossed the
washcloth into the sink and came back out to the living room. It’s
true. He was right. I’ve been married twice before, and I don’t
mind talking about it. I am what I am. Mistakes and warts and all –
but he was taking a lot of liberties here. “Yes, Gunner. That is
correct.”
“Was it just a
string of bad luck there, Carter? I’m kidding. I’m kidding. But
seriously, are you going to do something different with this one to
make it last?”
“You’re walking
a fine line here, Gunner...”
“I’m just
telling you the things you need to know. You need to learn how to
lead as a husband. Be the head, not the tail. You’ve probably been
beaten down by the feminists. Real Christian men know how to satisfy
their wives. And evangelical men have the lowest reported rates of
domestic abuse among any group in the United States. Real Christian
men, Carter.”
“I don’t know
where you got your statistics,” I said. “Maybe they’re true.
Maybe they’re not. Maybe the lowest reported rate
of abuse is not actually the lowest. I don’t know. But are you
sure that’s the way you want to go, Gunner? Are you sure that’s
the argument you want to make? I’ve seen your arrest record, you
know. It’s in the public records. We don’t have to go down that
road if you don’t want to. I’m giving you the opportunity to
start over.”
There was a long
pause while he glared at me. “I was a different man then. And she’s
forgiven me.”
“I’m sure she
has, Gunner. She’s a better woman than you deserve.”
“You’re soft,
Carter. If you don’t get it, you must be gay or retarded.”
“Now see –
there must have been a dozen other ways you could have made your
argument, but you went straight to ableist and homophobic slurs.”
“I didn’t call
you a fag, so what’s your point?”
“Cruelty is the
point, isn’t it, Gunner?”
“Truth hurts,
Carter. Can’t help if it offends you.”
I stared at him.
Silent. Just waiting for whatever would come out of his mouth next.
“I don’t want
to hear it. We’re not talking about this. I swear, you’re so
frustrating, Carter. How dare you? Who the hell do you think you are,
anyway? Coward! Fool! Who do you think you are? You’re not God.
You’re just a man. And not much of a man. You do the cooking. You
do the laundry. Don’t you? You’re not an impressive man. You’re
not a godly man in any way. You’ve got no dignity. You’ve got no
masculinity. Shut up, little boy. Grow up. Maybe one day you’ll
know what it means to have a godly marriage. Shame on you for saying
you’re a Christian. You won’t submit to spiritual authority. I’m
here, I come here for your own good, Carter. And you’re just too
stupid to receive it.”
I stared at him in
continued silence for a few seconds and then offered him another
glass of water. He launched himself from the couch and stormed out of
the house.
I’m sure I’ll
see him again sooner or later.
The Conversations:
An Imaginary Conversation with a Real Troll (the first of the series)
I Will Not Fight the Argument (the second)
Supermarket Wrestling (third conversation)
Do You Even Pray (the troll returns)
All Means All (A fifth conversation)
The Doctrine that Cannot Be Challenged (sixth conversation)
Toward Sodom - (a halfhearted seventh conversation)
Millions of Years of Death (the eighth conversation)
Truth with Untruth (the ninth conversation)
Bulls, Dogs, and Villains (the tenth conversation)
The Righteous Forsaken (the eleventh conversation)
A Sabbath Garden (conversation number twelve)
Doesn't Doctrine Mean Anything to You? (conversation thirteen)